Saturday, July 28, 2007

Fate First, Then Decision

* Please see June 30th's post for background information on this post.

Thursday, January 15, 2004

Fate First, Followed By Intellectual Decision

Call it fate, call it divine appointment, call it whatever you would like. But whatever you call it, somehow life's circumstances have led you to someone. And they will continue to lead you to many different someones. Some will make you weak in your knees, twitterpated if you will, others you will allow to pass by going unnoticed. But when someone does catch the attention of your heart and mind, choice steps in.

Will he have the nerve to pursue this woman? Or will he allow intimidation and fear of rejection stand in his way? And how will she respond? Will she run from him in fear of falling in love and having her heart broken once more? Are both parties ready to be committed to someone else? Has he fallen for whom she really is or has her outward beauty seduced him? Has she fallen for him simply because he is showing her the attention she desires? Or has she fallen in love, not with his accomplishments, but with the man that he is?

Is a relationship even an option or does age difference or life calling stand in the way? And can barriers, such a geographical distance, be overcome? Is the person worth the sacrifice? Is the person worth the effort? Is the person worth taking your own life and intertwining it with theirs? Hopefully some day we will all have the opportunity to say yes to these final three questions, but until then . . .


M, so many questions- what happened to love at first site..This sounds more like love after first interrogation, which is love by choice not love by fate. assessing the other person, finding their positives and negatives, seeing if you can live with their flaws and not being able to live without their touch. my friend you have joined the choice cult.


m@ said...

No AAVineyard, I reckon. Maybe the back pew of a chapel somewhere, a place where I can be anonymous on a Sunday morning.

Do you ever want God to chase after you as if he had a crush? I tend to think He does exactly that; it's just that the monotony of it all distracts us sometimes. Hmm.

Anyway, yeah, quoth away. :)

amdawson said...

i love the title of your book. when does it come out?

~micah~ said...

the choice cult? what happened to love at first sight? interrogation?

it seems as though the response to your writing is a bit defensive. i wonder what leads to that. "fate" and "love at first sight" are both wonderful concepts, especially appealing to the romantics. the problem with depending only on fate and what you first see is that there is no substance.

the questions from marie show she has substance and she cares about the substance of others. fate = infatuation, not love. love does require choices. otherwise it is not real love. cinderella stories have fogged the minds of mankind.