tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455241691779268140.post1044257220048978010..comments2023-04-04T06:09:26.708-07:00Comments on (not so) Blank Thoughts: SparkleKatrina Blankhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11254885962095103841noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455241691779268140.post-88438717692705253182013-02-23T19:26:47.679-08:002013-02-23T19:26:47.679-08:00Hey, I just thought I'd share that I've sp...Hey, I just thought I'd share that I've spent a large portion of my evening reading your blog. You leave so many doors open: will she start smoking, did she like the Alchemist? I used to blog, but gave it up when I got into a serious relationship. Part of it was that I couldn't muse about my gf like you can about peripheral friends like the guy down the shore or the second hottest guy you know. But I must also admit that my wife has simply made me far more content, and perhaps a little lazy. Rather than delving for truth and pondering the joys and hardships of living, now I usually just find comfort in my wife instead. I was never a writer, but there is much value in being single if that is what your pursuit is. If I were a writer, I suppose I would have to spend weeks at a time alone in a cabin with nothing but my laptop and my dog, not so much to get away from distraction, but to simply get away from the comforts of marriage.<br /><br />I've been happily married for 2 1/2 years now and I truly am happy. But I do miss the individuality I had when I was single. I miss being able to sit at a coffee shop for hours on end without anyone checking in on me. I miss heading out to a bar on a whim or showing up to random places by myself. I miss leaving in the morning at 6:30 am and not coming home till 10:00 pm. I miss the freedom to explore whatever curiosity or fad that is in my head. Marriage is completely an adventure of it's own, but it does not come without sacrifice.<br /><br />Anyway, from a married guy, maybe this is encouraging to you? I know this biological clock thing is a downer, but it's not unfathomable to think that you won't be ready to have kids for another 10+ years (from what I'm reading you don't even have a job right now). If you're too old then, there are still plenty of kids who need families. In the meantime you are in an optimal position in your life to be a writer, as you are experienced, driven, and untethered. I say, continue to fill you brain with literacy, adventure and life experience while you still can, and let your struggle be your story.<br /><br />Now get off your ass and produce something worth reading!Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07622907914241925558noreply@blogger.com